Ejaculation is not orgasm, despite what you might think. In fact, there are distinct differences between orgasm, climax and ejaculation. Learning to separate these different happenings inside of your body can be a very empowering process.
I work with a lot of guys who are insecure because at least once they have ejaculated without a conscious choice. While I try and tell them that it is common and will happen to most men in their lifetime, it doesn’t take away the sting of self-critical thoughts that arise inside their mind. These self-critical thoughts can end up being the very cause of rapid ejaculation happening again in the future. More on that later…
In my previous blog The Cock is Intelligent I go into detail about how brilliant the penis is and why its important to slow down and practice self-compassion when you feel your cock has betrayed you. I know you’ve felt that! If you want to learn more about my perspective on erectile “dysfunction” and performance anxiety, please check out that article on my blog.
This blog is not about the embarrassment of rapid ejaculation. It is however all about why frequent ejaculation may be contributing to an overall sense of insecurity; a lack of confidence and many more negative feelings.
Ejaculation is the physical release of semen and seminal fluid. Semen production takes place in tiny tubes in the testicles. Seminal fluid is what carries the semen outside of the body and is produced inside the prostate gland.
What is in your ejaculate?
Since one ejaculation usually produces 5 ml of semen and seminal fluid, we can say that the average amount of ejaculation contains around 252 mg of protein, depending on your overall health and if you’ve recently ejaculated. It is also believed to carry vitamin C and 3 percent of your daily allowance of zinc, as well as fructose, sodium, cholesterol, fat and traces of vitamin B-12. That’s a lot of nutrients! Your body works hard every day, with every meal to generate sperm and the fluid needed to carry it through your body. Some estimates are that it takes 74 days for sperm to generate from start to finish.
While theories vary on whether or not you should ejaculate often, this article favors less frequent ejaculation, in favor of keeping all of that vital energy inside the body and circulating it through the body’s specialized channels.
Tantric & Taoist Perspectives on Ejaculation
For literally thousands of years, Eastern traditions have linked sexual power and sexual energy with ejaculation frequency. These eastern practices have a lot to offer us because they take a holistic approach to health. Even though Tantra and Taoism share similar fundamental philosophies, they have different recommendations for how often a male should ejaculate. Taylor Johnson, writes on his website:
- One Tantra school says you should only ejaculate for procreation (while having as much sex as you want).
- Another Tantra school says that you should ejaculate only as often as you can give blood (every 8 weeks).
- One branch of Taoist Sexuality says that you should ejaculate at a specific frequency that is related to your age
- Another branch of Taoist Sexuality says you should ejaculate based on what season it is.
The Energy of Ejaculating
If semen contains vital nutrients that your body generates regularly, then one might want to choose when and how often to let this energy go through ejaculation. Frequent ejaculation can lead to a perpetual state of ejaculation hangover; a state of non-peak performance where you might notice a decline in mental clarity, motivation, and confidence.
Benefits of Less Frequent Release
What might you feel if you retained the semen inside your body, at the same time still getting sexual, building pleasure and circulating your orgasmic energy? Obviously, I’m not a male bodied penis owner with semen producing testicles. However, I’ve spoken to men who have gone 30+ days without ejaculating. I’ve studied from teachers who teach this stuff and I have read books all about it. They tell me they FEEL GOOD. And they dont mean the instant gratification kind of feel good. They tell me that at a deeper, core existential level they feel good. Men who have tried this and trained themselves to release only when they choose, report feeling in alignment with their life purpose, feeling powerful, confident, radiant, and at ease.
Who doesnt want to feel that?
If this sounds good to you and you would like to learn more I recommend the following book and teachers.
- Multi-orgasmic Man, by Mantak Chia
- Loren Johnson, my teacher and friend
- Taylor Johnson, men’s coach
Noe that you know ejaculation is not orgasm, are you ready to try ejaculating less and see what happens?
I would also like to support you in any way I can. Check out my videos and classes on Only Fans. Or reach out by email to inquire about my customized intimacy coaching programs!
